*sigh*

[samsom]

I sometimes wonder if I'm too much of a prude or if it's just as appalling (I know! Such a fuddy-duddy word!) as I think it is.

helping out with my daughter's birthday party, and we went to Target for some things. He kept looking at his phone, I noticed, but I didn't think anything of it. Then this little sixteen year old goes by us and I was teasing my nephew (who is barely seventeen) about her. Know what he said? "Been there, done that."

My jaw dropped. One thing led to another and he tells me that girls approach him all the time. He said it just happened and I'm like "I didn't see anyone". So he pulls out his phone and shows me the picture a girl just sent him of herself - from the dressing room where she stripped her shirt off before taking the picture!

Then, while I'm scraping my jaw off the floor, he scrolled and showed me some other girls' pictures. Apparently it's some weirdly ordinary occurance where girls will take nude or semi-nude pictures of themselves and send them to him. The girl in the dressing room sent a follow up text telling him he was such a 'cutie pie'.

So. Appalling. Y/Y??

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My daughter's party was today, even though her birthday is tomorrow. It went well, even though we had some no shows and the wind would NOT stop blowing. I got some sun, and my daughter got a face full of cake. I'm glad it's over. I am not a naturally social person so every birthday event is a litmus test of stress and anxiety.

Finally, I can stop thinking about it.

Gabs, I got your PM, I am brainstorming, and now that I have some free time, I'll be able to talk to you about it. I didn't forget, boo. *hugs*

Comments

[ladysophiekitty.livejournal.com]

I'm fifteen (sixteen in a few months, whoo!) and I don't think you're a prude at all. It bothers me too. Because as the others have mentioned, you should respect and love your body. Plus I wouldn't want a guy walking around with a nude picture of me on his cell-phone. Especially if we haven't been going out for a long time and it's more of a "hey I'm interested in you here's what I look like naked" kind of thing. I probably wouldn't even do it if we had been going out for a long time.

My body and my sexuality is important to me. I don't want to have sex just because and especially not before I'm ready. There are girls in my school who, at the age of 14, have already slept with over 25 guys. I don't necessarily believe in "the one" but I want my first date and my first kiss and my first time to at least be something special.

I want someone who can respect who I am as well as what I look like, and it feels to me that if I were to send a nude picture of myself, it's kind of like telling him it's okay just to see me as a sex object.

Apparently these thoughts make me uncool, but I don't care.

Happy birthday to Sam!! *sends huggles*

[a2zmom.livejournal.com]

I warn you - send a nude pic to someone and it WILL end up on the internet where you will be oggled by millions.

[ladysophiekitty.livejournal.com]

*shudders*

No thanks.

[samsom.livejournal.com]

*nods* I remember being twelve and not understanding the drama that was happening with one of my friends. A group of them told me it was 'over my head'. Turns out she thought she was pregnant. AT TWELVE!!! Kids were having sex right and left around me, and thinking it somehow made them more special or older. My view was limited but I thought it made them pathetic. If you can't remember your first time because of the sea of faces in your past, there's something wrong with that.

I'm not telling you that your first time, whatever age it will happen, will be fireworks, but you should at least be old enough to fully appreciate it for what it is. Good on you for the sensible head on your shoulders.