I agree with you, I don't think the show was making him out to be a wronged woobie. But wanting me to sympathize with him despite how horribly he fucked up wasn't any better in my eyes. I wasn't ready to, I think, and the show setting it up that way didn't help. Because you know what? I did feel sorry for him, and I think that's why I had such a pissy reaction. I didn't want to, and I was, just a little, lol. Stupid writers. *grumble*

Anyway, the trilogy is by Julie Fortune, Slightly Darker Than Black, Burn, The Dead Church...I think you'll really like them because they are as Wesley-centric as Cordelia and Angel.

The first two are here:

http://web.archive.org/web/20030715173458/http://home.comcast.net/~juliefortune/ANGEL.HTM

And the third and final part is here:

http://www.stranger-things.net/justfic/index/j/juliefortune/deadchurch.htm